I am Never Offended by People

Today, I heard the most disingenuous BS ever.

"I don't get offended," she said to me.

 Background:
There once was a friend. One day, the friend decided that we should no longer be friends on facebook. She blocked me completely so not only am I unable to see her profile, I am not allowed to send her a message. She also happens to take lessons from my teacher. Once in a while we'd see each other, she'd throw me the cold shoulder.

As much as the pride in me kept saying "I don't care about her", the real me says "I am hurt."

So one day, I decided that in order to forgive her for hurting me, I had to find out if I was actually the one who needed the forgiveness.

I called her....
         Call ignored.

Left her a message:
Hi, I know it's been awhile. Recently, I've felt a sudden change in how you have been treating me. Instead of sulking about it, I'm calling to see if I have offended you in any way. If I have, I am sorry for what I've done on top of having been so ignorant about it. If I haven't, I would still love to talk to you and be completely open in listening to what you have to say.

She called back and asked what prompted me to call her.
"What made you think that I am offended by you? I am not offended by you.  (And here's when it happened.)
I don't get offended. (hogwash) I am NEVER offended by people.(garbage, rubbish, ultimate bullshit) What made you think that I am offended by you? What did I do to make you feel like that about me? What made you think that I am offended by you?"

Okay, so maybe the conversation didn't go as I have hoped but I did learn a few things.

...Maybe sometimes asking for forgiveness is not really about getting the pardon from someone else. But it is about finding the courage to forgive yourself and pardoning your own imperfections.

 ...And maybe sometimes forgiving is not about pardoning others for how they have wronged you. Instead, it is about showing grace to people that are not able to do that for themselves.


Forgive our sins as we forgive those who sin against us.